here we go again (relationships)
Today he did it again. The last time Boyfriend asked me to do something for him or the house I refused, and told him that I was refusing because soon afterward he would be telling me that I never do anything for him and never do anything that he requests of me. Of course, I was joking and said it in a joking manner, but of course I was also serious, and he knew it.
This is one of his favorite complaints about me. Today he blasted me several times because I did not feel like cooking, and he wanted me to. Honestly, I think he expects me to do whatever he asks, because I don’t work much and am dependent upon him for some of our financial needs (only basic things like food and rent and most of the bills). Therefore, in his mind, I OWE him. I HAVE to do whatever he wants me to do. That’s the only thing that makes sense to me, since I am constantly – as in almost every single day – doing things for him and the household, and he is constantly telling me that I do nothing.
Never mind that he has never been very sensitive about my medical conditions. That is the downside of looking good while not always feeling too good.
He never says these things in a calm, mature manner, either. The overwhelming majority of the time it is in an agitated, sarcastic, accusatory, insulting way. I am very, very sick and tired of being verbally assaulted in what is supposed to be my own house.
