strange bedfellows (relationships, sexuality)
so i’m traveling in the u.s. for two months and arrive back at my boyfriend’s in rio, and we have sex the next day. he cums but i don’t – and now two weeks have passed, and i'm still waiting to have an orgasm (with him - i masturbated a few times). is it really so wrong for me to pursue sex outside the relationship? he complains about our sex life and doesn’t want me to have sex outside the relationship – but almost without exception bothers me about having sex when i'm exhausted and we are finally getting to bed after he has run out of television-watching options – and he would seem to prefer to work really hard, go to the gym, watch t.v., and sleep. i think that’s a little strange for someone who says that he wants a relationship, and one that includes a sexual component at that.
granted, i often don’t sleep well at night, feel tired and exhausted, or have other health problems that get in the way (maybe even just don’t feel that well generally). i might not have the sexual drive that he (says that he) does. but if i can go out and have sex with other people from time to time, there are clearly ways we can work around that. i don’t know if there is something else that i could do, besides regularly pointing out all of the realities of the situation, in hopes that he will do something different. at least now i am being honest with him and have told him that if he doesn't start paying more attention to our sexual relationship, i'm going to do whatever i want to do with others, whenever i want to do it.
